Sunday, November 22, 2009


I don't know how many people have heard the story of Jamar Pinkney. If you haven't you can read it by clicking here. Basically Jamar Pinkney found out that his 15 year old son molested a 3 year old girl. He made his son strip naked and marched him to an empty lot where he ordered his son on his knees and executed him. He did this after hearing the pleas of his son and his wife. I believe the father could not live with having a child molester as a son.

As I've stated on my other blog I do not believe a human should decide the life and death of another human being, not matter how heinous the crime may be. Can I say I wouldn't do the same thing in this man's shoes? I don't know. He may have been in a temporary state of insanity. I could never imagine if my son was spineless enough to take advantage of a toddler. Who knows what type of monster this boy could have grown up to become (assuming he wouldn't have had some type of therapy or intervention).

The person I feel for the most in this situation is Lazette Cherry, the mother of the boy and wife of Jamar Pinkney. She has basically lost her son and husband in the blink of an eye. She has gone on record as saying:

"I called and told his father this isn't something you sweep under the rug,"

Even though she did the right thing by telling her husband, in retrospect I would imagine she probably wishes she told her husband at a later point or in a different manner. This is a sad situation because essentially two lives have been lost over two senseless acts.

Do you think Jamar Pinkney was wrong for taking the law into his own hands? Would you have done the same?

Friday, November 13, 2009


American essayist, philosopher, and poet Ralph Waldo Emerson once said "Each man has his own vocation; his talent is his call. There is one direction in which all space is open to him."

The substance of this quote can apply to nearly any aspect of life and in any profession. Doctors, lawyers, engineers, barbers, sports whatever the profession, an individual realizes they have some degree of talent and then work to develop their skill set. The athlete who works hard becomes a world famous player and the best in his sport. The doctor who works hard becomes a world renowned surgeon.

Lebron James, Michael Jordan, Johnny Cochran.............. what do they all have in common? All had talent and developed it to be successful. Far more important than developing their talent is the fact that they were fortunate enough to not get in their own way while developing that talent.

What do I mean by this? Far too many times we have witnessed people who have talents one can only dream of; yet they are unable to get out of the way to allow the talent to blossom.

Thunder Collins was a University of Nebraska running back. As a  high school senior he rushed for over 1,110 yards. He was a Junior College All American and was recruited by several large universities.

Today, Thunder Collins is a convicted killer sentenced to life in prison with an additional 110 years for other counts. Thunder Collins provides a prime example of how we get in the way of our talents and close the space that Emerson spoke of.

Thunder Collins (Univ of Nebraska), Lawrence Phillips (Univ of Nebraska), Cecil Collins (LSU), and Maurice Clarett (Ohio State) are all bad exmaples of young black men with endless potential and are all currently incarcerated. Why is this?

If a man’s talent is his calling, why are their life changing obstacles placed before him that prevent him from reaching his calling?

Monday, November 9, 2009


I am only trying to bring light to things that may seem gray to people. I am in no way trying to bash the practices or views of others. The views below and in the Gray Area Series have been compiled over the years. They have previously been expressed by me and those around me, both male and female. I am currently dating and things are going very well.

Have you ever wondered, “What’s the best way to tell a woman I’m not interested?” Or ladies, have you ever wondered the same in terms of a man? I don’t think there is an easy way to say no, but there is a hard way to say yes. Saying yes with intentions of doing the opposite is a very hard way to say yes. True, sometimes, no isn’t good enough, but I was always brought up…no means no. Weren’t you?

Let’s extend this “No” for a moment. If you’re looking for a job, and a recruiter calls you and tells you about this job that seems interesting on the surface. You ask additional questions and then you tell the recruiter to set you up for a phone interview with the hiring manager. Once the manager calls you, you make a quick assessment and determine 1) you’re not interested and would rather wait it out for something better 2) you’re interested.

Let’s examine the above with the following assumptions:
This job matches or is better than what your resume would offer you
The company is not a fortune 500 company
The benefits of this job a far greater that any of your previous jobs
You’re currently unemployed
You have no complaints with the look and feel of the company’s website.

~You’re not interested and rather wait it out for something better
If you haven’t had a job in a few months or have been from job to job over the last year, why would you pass on a job with so much to offer? Why would you feel more inclined with justifying why you’re not working, when you’ve had this opportunity come along? (Haven’t you heard this before, “there aren’t any good available women around.” “There aren’t any good available men around.”)

Well, it’s obvious that those who pass up on this job are so used to the state their in, they don’t recognize the difference between the genuine gold in front of them and something that’s gold plated. True this job isn’t with a Fortune 500 company, but you won’t have to be stuffed in a small cubicle with your manager watching your every move. With a Fortune 500 company, you won’t be able to access the internet and you’re only allowed 30 minutes for lunch. But, hey, that’s the life of those employed by some a fortune 500 companies. That’s what you want, right? Or, that’s what you deserve?

The company wants you...but you’re not interested anymore. I’m sure you would tell the recruiter “No, I’m not interested in this position.” Correct? And if he keeps asking you about the job, you would continue to tell him no, right? No ambiguity there. Maybe you would tell him you’re interested, and when the company calls to make you an offer…you wouldn’t answer right? Would you? Have you?

What’s worse, saying no, or saying yes and really meaning no? Let’s not speak of things we don’t really want…like a good woman (fellas)….like a good man (ladies). Let’s not say we want a Good Company when we really want a Good Fortune 500 Company. Let’s not say no and mean yes or say yes and mean no. A yes, is a yes, and a no is a no…there’s nothing in between. “No” Gray! I’m sure the company who wants you would appreciate it (wink wink).

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Blackboard Experience: It Takes a Village to Raise a Child

Some of the stories that I share are for inspiration, overall uplifting and celebration of things that people may do in the black community that may get overlooked. I try my best to bring light to these great contributions or achievements from people. However, some of my stories comes from absolute outrage or an experience that really compels me to share what I see, think and thought at the time that this was going on.


On Saturday, Oct. 31, which was Halloween, I went to a Halloween party. This party was nothing special. It was just normal everyday costume party. Nothing ridiculous or out of the ordinary happened. It was my experience stopping at the gas station that struck a nerve in me. I stopped at the gas station to get a pack of gum. As I was walking into the gas station, I noticed there were about 5 to 6 black kids hanging out around and in the convenience store.

 Now, to some people, this may not be a big deal but to me, it was an extremely big deal. This black male who was between 17- 21 years old by my guess asked me if I smoked weed. Initially, I thought that he was looking for weed and then I realized that he was trying to sell me weed. The first time he asked me I did not turn around because I did not think he was talking to me. Then again, when I was leaving out, he asked me again. I answered short and abruptly,

“Nah dog.”

As I was walking out I noticed two girls were part of the five people hanging around. I was not able to determine if the cashier was black or some sort of foreigner. However, I did notice that the glass between him and I was at least 4 inches thick.

 These are some questions I begin to ask myself:


Why is this kid in a convenience store owned by a foreigner hanging out in the store and not buying anything and trying to sell me weed? It is 9:00 pm or a Friday night. Isn’t there a School Halloween Dance, football or basketball game going on? Isn’t there a girl you could take to the movies? Couldn’t you be at a job? Isn’t there something else you could be doing with your time? Also, what were the girls doing there? Are they trying to hang around the guy that is selling weed? Is that cool?


How did this become something to do for this kid? What motivates him to hang at a store away from home? Is he hanging away from home because his parents will be upset at home if they caught him selling in the neighborhood? Is his parents even around? How can’t this kid be doing 100 other things?


When did this become acceptable? When did people who own stores allow people to loiter in and around their property selling weed? Doesn’t that affect their business? Are they scared to tell this kid something because he may cause harm to them?


What should I have down? Should I have tried to talk to him and ask him his situation and offer him help? Would he have looked at me driving a Toyota Camry and said, “What the hell will I listen to him for?” Would he have gotten upset with me if I tried to interfere?Well, I don’t know because I walked out without a word or even a look. I went to my party and although this was on my mind, I still had fun and followed my normal routine.

Here are my questions to you:

Should I even be complaining about this considering that I did or said nothing?
Are we responsible for this disturbing behavior?
Can this pattern of behavior be stopped and if so, how long will it take?

Lastly, the collective thoughts of people who may think about these things are extremely important to me. If you have any comments or concerns or anything on this matter, please comment because it takes a village to raise a child.

"It takes a village to raise a child" originated from the Nigerian Igbo culture and proverb "Ora na azu nwa" which means it takes the community/village to raise a child. The Igbo's also name their children "Nwa ora" which means child of the community. It has been in existence in Africa for centuries.

Dario Mobley

Thursday, October 22, 2009

Role Model

Not ideal but at least they tried

In today's society where only 3 out of 100 black males entering kindergarten will graduate from
college it's imperative that we as individuals do all that we can to buck this trend.
Every 5 seconds during the school day, a black public school student is suspended. Every 46 seconds during the school day, a black high school student drops out. Those of us that have achieved higher education and have "made something" of ourselves have a responsibility to lift as we climb and become bridge builders for our youth. If we don't then I fear that blacks in America, especially black males, will become a lost cause.


An old man, going a lone highway,
Came at the evening cold and gray,
To a chasm, vast and deep and wide,
Through which was flowing a sullen tide.
The old man crossed in the twilight dim-
That sullen stream had no fears for him;
But he turned, when he reached the other side,
And built a bridge to span the tide.

"Old man," said a fellow pilgrim near,
"You are wasting strength in building here.
Your journey will end with the ending day;
You never again must pass this way.
You have crossed the chasm, deep and wide,
Why build you the bridge at the eventide?"

The builder lifted his old gray head.
"Good friend, in the path I have come," he said,
"There followeth after me today
A youth whose feet must pass this way.
This chasm that has been naught to me
To that fair-haired youth may a pitfall be.
He, too, must cross in the twilight dim;
Good friend, I am building the bridge for


We must not only think of ourselves but those who will come behind us. In this day and age there are so many pitfalls that can trip the youth in their journey to becoming successful and well rounded adults. I'm not going to be the one to blame BET, entertainers or movies for this. Growing up I watched a lot of violence on television and I listened to a lot of rap music. I believe that I turned out the way I did because I had plenty of positive role models in my life that taught me the value of getting a good education and living life on the straight and narrow. These role models weren't just my parents, they were teachers, coaches and parents of friends.
My mission to you is think about what you can do to help someone who may or may not have been in your shoes. If you already have and are doing what you can to help the cause then kudos to you.
National Center for Education Statistics. (2001). The Condition of Education,
2001. U.S. Department of Education.

U.S. Department of Education. (1999). Hope for Urban Education: A Study of
Nine High-Performing, High-Poverty, Urban Elementary Schools. U.S. Department of

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Blackboard Feature: Steve Perry - 100% Go To College

HARTFORD, Connecticut (CNN) -- Principal Steve Perry doesn't believe in cursory inspections. For him, every single detail matters. T's are always crossed, I's are always dotted. Shirts are always buttoned and tucked in.

During his daily morning hallway inspections, he reprimands a student not wearing the Capital Prep school approved sweatshirt with a "That's not our gray." He then quickly peers into another classroom to witness a student acting up. "Don't do it! Don't do it! Don't do it!" he warns sternly. The student retorts "Why not?" Perry knowingly looks at him and simply says, "You're the upperclassman" and with that, the student sheepishly walks away.

It's all part of the daily routine of tough love and high expectations at Capital Preparatory Magnet School in downtown Hartford, Connecticut. It's a public magnet school, with a college prep school attitude. As Perry says, "If you don't want to go to college, don't go to Capital Prep. Go somewhere else."

Perry's demanding approach has yielded big results. The school of just under 300 sixth- through 12th-grade students boasts a near 0 percent dropout rate. That's a stunning achievement considering Hartford is one of the lowest performing districts in Connecticut, a state with one of the largest achievement gaps between black and white students in the nation. According to the Connecticut Coalition for Achievement NOW, an educational advocacy group, black students in Connecticut are, on average, three grade levels behind their white peers.

Capital Prep, a year-round school that is more than 80 percent black and Latino, can boast of sending every graduating member of its senior class on to a four-year college. In the four years since Perry founded the school, he has sent 80 students on to college. See how Capital Prep is defying the odds »

Perry founded the school with the specific purpose of creating a school that would serve students with backgrounds similar to his. Born to a teenage mother, Perry grew up impoverished in a public housing project just outside Hartford. He recalls, "I had to be a principal at some point, or a prisoner, because I spent more time in the principal's office than the principal."

But it was Perry's fourth-grade teacher, Mr. Kensel, who saw the potential in Perry and set him straight. Perry knew he wanted to do the same for others.

"We decided we were going to open a school. We were going to serve mainly black and Latino children, but the only color I was looking at was the color of success," says Perry.

Perry has achieved that by holding staff and students to the highest expectations.

Breonna Arnum, 17, a senior at Capital Prep, believes it works.

"It makes a difference because everybody has the same goals as you. So it's not like anyone is there to pull you back. Everyone is going forward," Arnum says.

Her mother, Waynette Arnum, agrees. She believes it's a particular boon for students of color to be immersed in an environment with high demands.

"When you're in a school system and people look like you, and they're just as bright as you are, and they're kicking those As out and those 96s and 97s like you, you also know that you're surrounded by people just like yourself who are achievers," says Waynette Arnum. "And it's not an anomaly; it's not something that's rare."

She believes that seeing success is imperative, because black children need role models who look like them. Sound off: How can we keep our kids in school?

"For students of color, for black students, first of all, when you look at who your role models are, when you look at people that look like you, it tells us that we can do things," says Waynette Arnum.

In addition, she says black children are too often overlooked.

"I think that students of color are automatically stereotyped sometimes when they go into school systems that are predominantly white," says Waynette Arnum. "The stereotype that there's no father in the home, that the parents don't care; we have a plethora of stereotypes -- that the kids have behavioral problems, that the boys should all be put on Ritalin or something of that sort. Yes, these are definitely issues."

These are issues all black parents must face, says Angela Burt-Murray, editor-in-chief of Essence Magazine. Burt-Murray is the mother of two black boys and she and her husband are not only parents, but also advocates for their children.

"It starts with formulating that relationship with the teacher, letting the teacher know that you are an involved and concerned parent," says Burt-Murray.

Waynette Arnum agrees that parents have to speak up. That's exactly what she did.

"I definitely had to sit there and let the teachers know, let the school system know, let the parents know and let my daughter know that yes, I am an advocate," says Arnum. "And, all students deserve to learn equally."

Arnum believes Breonna was overlooked in elementary school, simply because of the color of her skin. It prompted her to not only stand up for her own daughter, but also to join a Students of Color Committee in the town of Manchester, Connecticut.

"There were definitely issues that were particular to my daughter that later I knew would be particular to all students of color. So that's how come I had to be involved," recalls Arnum.

Arnum believes if she hadn't stood up for her daughter, things could have turned out differently.

"I feel as though if I hadn't started off the way I had, Breonna still would have slipped though the cracks, even though we push her at home," Arnum says.

Perry, the dedicated principal, agrees that black children can frequently be the victims of stereotypes. It's the reason he pushed so hard to create an environment where everyone was held to the same expectations.

"In our school, it's college prep for everybody; it doesn't matter if you're black or white. They can see that it's OK for them to be smart and black," says Perry.

Friday, October 16, 2009

Blackboard Feature: Meharry Medical College (Part 1 - The History)

What is Meharry Medical College?

Meharry Medical College was founded in 1876 to educate African American physicians, scientists, and dentists….
The Meharry motto is “Worship of God through service to mankind.”
There is a 132 year period of Meharry Medical College’s history, beginning prior to its formal organization in 1876 with a singular act of grace bestowed by the young farmer, Samuel Meharry, upon a family of freed slaves who assisted him when his salt wagon became disabled as he traveled though Kentucky.

The story goes like this…..
In the 1820’s, 16-year-old Samuel Meharry was hauling a load of salt through the Kentucky wilderness when his wagon slid off the road into a muddy ditch. With rain and nightfall limiting his options, Samuel searched for help. Peering through the darkness, he saw a modest cabin that was home to a black family recently freed from slavery. Ignoring risks involved in responding to a stranger’s knock on the door, the family – still vulnerable to slave hunters paid to return freedmen to bondage – gave Samuel Meharry food and shelter for the night.

At morning’s light, they helped the young visitor raise his wagon from the mud, and Samuel continued on his way. The black family’s act of kindness touched young Meharry so deeply that he vowed to repay it. “I have no money now,” he said as he departed “but when I am able, I shall do something for your race.”Tragically, history never recorded the name of the courageous black family, and perhaps their identity even receded in the mind of Samuel Meharry as he grew prosperous in the years that followed.

Even so, 40 years later, as the Civil War ended and black citizens began their long struggle for rights guaranteed by the Constitution, Meharry seized an opportunity to redeem his vow. When leading Methodist clergymen and laymen organized the Freedmen's Aid Society in August 1866, to "elevate former slaves, intellectually and morally," Samuel acted. He and his four brothers - Alexander, David, Hugh, and Jesse - pledged their support to Central Tennessee College's emerging medical education program. With $30,000 in cash and real property, the Meharry brothers repaid the black family's Act of Kindness with one of their own: In 1876, they funded the College's Medical Department, which evolved over time into what we now know as Meharry Medical College.
Today, the contemporary Salt Wagon image symbolizes those several acts of kindness and philanthropy and countless others performed by the College's loyal supporters.

The mission of Meharry Medical College exists to improve the health and health care of minority and underserved communities by offering excellent education and training programs in the health sciences, placing special emphasis on providing opportunities to people of color and individuals from disadvantage backgrounds, regardless of race or ethnicity; delivering high-quality health services; and conducting research that fosters the elimination of health disparities.

Year after year Meharry Medical College produces the most African American MDs, Dentists, and PhD's in the country!

Have you ever heard the story of Meharry's history? Do you know anyone that attends or attended Meharry? Does it make you proud that such an institution exists?

Thursday, October 1, 2009


Firstly, I will say when and if you comment to this, you can make your comment anonymous. No one has to know who you are. The way you do it is simple. When you click comment, there is a drop down box labeled this:

Comment As:

When you look at the options, the option of anonymous is at the very bottom. Just Click on Anonymous.

With that being said, women are always an interesting topic for men even if it is absolutely 100% true that women will never figure out men and men will never figure out women. Considering the fact that I am an engineer by education, I habitually analyze things at work and it is a natural process for me to do it in other aspects of my life. Anyhow, here is the million dollar question.

Considering all of your relationships you have ever had and your current relationships, if there was ONE thing that you CAN NOT and WILL NOT deal with in a relationship, what would it be? Now be careful because some of you may  have had something in your mind that you declared that you will never deal with and ended up dealing with that so please be honest to yourself and anonymous on the blog. Here is a list of things I have come up with. The last option is other. If it is other, please let me know what that is.










J) OTHER_____________________

 I would appreciate your comments and I also want to let you know that Series II will ask the same question to guys so you should tune in.

Wednesday, September 23, 2009


As you watched that video, I know that most of you probably got a huge fist full of knots in your stomach and really wondered if this is real. I hate to inform you but this is real. I have never ever seen this much hate for a President in my life and it is amazing. This is truly unbelievable and this is TRULY AMERICA AT IT'S WORST. We should fully understand this and be aware of this because whatever motivation that this is coming from, it is possible that other people share this same feeling.

 This is horrendous and BEYOND COMPREHENSION!!!

 This really makes me cringe and it almost brought me to the point of tears.

Luke 6:27-38 (New International Version)

Love for Enemies

27"But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, 28bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. 29If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. 30Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. 31Do to others as you would have them do to you.

32"If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' love those who love them. 33And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' do that. 34And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even 'sinners' lend to 'sinners,' expecting to be repaid in full. 35But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. 36Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

Judging Others

37"Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. 38Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

What Do You Do?

One of the hardest issues I think we as a people face today is figuring out what route we should take when we "make it". Firstly, what is "making it"? Is it graduating from college? Is it getting a high paying job? Is it getting married and starting a family? "Making it" is one of those ambiguous terms that has a different application for each individual. It is similar to how a mathematician might solve the same math problem in multiple ways.

Anyhow, let's assume for the purpose of this blog that you take your own personal definition of "making it" and apply it to yourself. Now, what happens after you "make it"? What important decisions do you now have to make in your life that you would not have made before? In the last few days, I found out that there are many thoughts that you need to ponder because when you "make it" it is only natural that your mind "makes it" with you. What do I mean by that?

Throughout your personal struggle to get to where you want to be, there were friends and things you did that was acceptable at the time that may not be acceptable "to you" right now. It could be hanging out late at the club, smoking weed, mismanaging your money or associating yourself with friends who may or may not be on the level you are on. Level you are on? Hmmmmmmmm............... That is always a tough one for most of us. Why? The reason is because we all probably have a friend or friends who have had the exact same opportunity as us and they squandered it. When you get a chance to look up and somewhat examine some of your friends, it is inevitable that some of them will "get it" and some of them simply won't "get it". How do you deal with the ones who don't "get it"? Do you become their counselor and put them on the right path? If so, what age is it or when does the time come when you can't help them anymore and they have to do something for themselves?

We have all heard the phrase: You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.

So if you are faced with a decision about a friend where you either have to cut them off completely or cut them off to the point where you only deal with them on certain levels, what is the right decision?

I think there is no clear cut right decision but one thing is absolutely certain: YOU HAVE TO MAKE SOME SORT OF DECISION!!!!

You can't sit there and let things linger to the point where either your long time friend hates you or you hate your long time friend. The decision may isolate that friend or even piss them off but the things they are doing to affect you may have already isolated or pissed you off!!!!

It is very true that you have to judge people by their heart and not by what they have or where they are in their life because sometimes circumstances can really prohibit a person's ascension into success. However, if they are not EVEN TRYING to ascend, what do you do when a man or woman still acts like a child?

1 Corinthians 13:11 (New International Version)

11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.

Thursday, September 10, 2009

Mercy, Mercy, Me

One night, while working in my assigned area, I turned onto a main street and guns shots rang out. Believing my partner and I were under fire, I stopped in the middle of the street to determine the gun shots' origin and whether or not we needed to shoot back. Well after realizing we weren't the targets, I continued to scan the area for the origin of the shots, and observed a young, black male firing in the direction of several other young, black males who were standing at the nearby intersection (that we noticed while fleeing). I then drove closer to the gunman, exited my vehicle and announced myself as a police officer. He then turned to flee and pointed his weapon at me, which made me lag further behind the guy because I had to duck for cover. To make a long story short, we eventually caught the gunman, which turned out to be a 15-year-old kid. We recovered his weapon, which was a handgun with an extended magazine (32 rounds).

While fleeing from us, the kid injured himself. I had to take him to the hospital, which is where I found out he was wanted for attempted murder and also that he had been shot in the face before. As a police officer, I can't tell you what I was thinking when I found out what kind of character I was dealing with.

My mind was running, wondering when did society lose this kid? Secondly, why was he shooting at the guys at the intersection? The scary and unbelievable part is that there are a lot more black males with this kid's mentality. Where did we go wrong? Is it even possible to prevent this wreckless mentality? I guess the real question is, does anyone give a shit?

Friday, September 4, 2009


A condition that many men and women strive for but don't quite know how to handle it when we finally achieve it. You might ask, how can success be a bad thing? Well, I'm not saying it's a bad thing because that's not the right word. I will say it is something that all professionals and successful individuals need to be very "CAUTIOUS" with. There are many different problems that come up on your road to becoming successful that foreshadow what's to come when you are finally there. The issues that will be included in this entry are personal knowledge and will be portrayed as such. Hopefully, some of you can relate.

I. Old Crowd

One really pressing issue is the crowd you are surrounded by. Most successful individuals gradually evolve and adopt a more sophisticated crowd as they grow into their success. That is easy to do when the original crowd is one of understanding. This means that they are not blind and can see where you are headed and are happy for you to move on into a circle of individuals that are right there with you. Let's be honest, this crowd may not truly exist. There are very seldom times where people are genuinely happy to see you succeed outside of your family and your closest friends. This is the first problem that needs to be navigated through. The majority of the crowd that you grew up with and did things with that were typically labeled as "bad" are probably still around and are still in a mindset that allows them to do anything they want because they don't have much to lose. You, on the other hand, now have a career, a profession, a host of employees or co-workers depending on you to be responsible at all times; on or off the clock. You also have the weight of all of your accomplishments on your shoulders; "He graduated from X University and he got into that mess, that is such a waste." Most successful individuals know that old crowd that wants them to be included in some ridiculous activity that years ago they would be completely up for and will surely result in a bad outcome. However, right now, you have to decline to be involved. Is there a price to pay for declining? The people in that crowd that will throw the fact that they grew up with you and you used to be "down" will more than likely call you all kinds of things similar to coward, sell out, weak, etc. You have to be very "CAUTIOUS" with your next move. At this point in your life, do these comments even matter to you anymore? They shouldn't...but they still hurt. These are your "boys!" ...NOT. Remember those who can not see you and what you stand for and always want the best for you aren't and never will be your real boys.

II. People Who Try to Take Advantage

The next problem you face is those that know you are now successful, including family, and know you are a fair and upstanding person and try to take advantage of that. This issue is one that is truly difficult to get through without some lingering guilt. I know some people have experience the cousin or uncle that only calls you when they are broke or their car has broken down and they have no where else to turn but to you. In a lot of cases, they need money. This is very shaky ground because you might have the money for them but this small creek could turn into a flood if you are too easy to loan them the money. The next time any little thing happens, they will call you FIRST before even trying to get the money on their own. It puts you in a bind emotionally, mentally and not to mention, financially. These are the people I grew up with or this is the man that used to take me to the park or zoo when I was a kid.... As hard as it is, you have to be "CAUTIOUS" at this point. Remember, you worked hard to get to where you are. You have stayed up all times of night studying and making the grade to be where you are now. You have your own household to look after now.. You have to say no. If they are your real family and really love you, they will understand. They will also realize that they were wrong to even put you in that position. They will also start to at least think twice before hitting the speed dial button on their phone to call you whenever something breaks that needs fixing. You worked hard for your success; it should not be abused by others with no intentions of giving back to you because in their minds, "you are successful and can just make more money or just buy more of that so why should they pay it back?" Stay away from these situations because you will have to see these people at Christmas time.

III. Finding a Mate

The last issue is finding a mate. When you are a successful person, finding a mate takes on a whole new meaning. Now you are not just a cute guy or girl at the bar; you are a cute doctor, lawyer, engineer, business owner at the bar. Be very "CAUTIOUS"when meeting new people as potential mates that are so so in the conversation until it comes up..."so what do you do again?" Then when the beans are spilled, you are suddenly a match made in heaven. Unfortunately, like P Diddy and Mase said, "the more money we come across the more problems we see." These are the mates you want to stay away from. It is hard for us to do that because you try not to judge people too quickly but why gamble with it at all? You have to find it in yourself even if the girl/guy is "HOT" to walk away. Just like the NFL, NBA, MLB, actors, actresses, etc. do every day of their lives, you too have to watch out for who's around you and who you are in contact with at all times because you can no longer think like you used to think. You are now a rare breed and you must treat yourself as such. "You are the party and they're just the guest list", courtesy of Timbaland.

So to all of my successful colleagues and friends...Be "CAUTIOUS" out there because it is true:

Haters never sleep and misery loves company.....

Til Next B

By: Broderick D. Moses

Wednesday, September 2, 2009


When do YOU know? Is it the feeling you get when the clouds are dark and the wind is at a standstill waiting for something to happen? Is it the feeling you get when you have 5 of the lottery numbers and you don’t have to wait on the 6th because you…? Is it the same feeling people get when they have nailed an interview or when the pregnancy test comes back with a “+”? Yeah…you know, right?

Or is the glass half full and you hold out because you know there’s a chance…slim…but you play against the odds…that something can change that euphoric feeling you have. You know.

Some say women know when they first meet a guy. Maybe, it’s that moment when he holds his own at the table full of friends. I know. I know when I get in front of the mirror and “line” my hair and make it extra fresh for the first date…I know. I know when she laughs at my jokes and vibes with me to the point where I forget I just met her.

But when do you know? Is there a template for knowing? Is there a time limit for knowing? When does the knowing become knew and you start anew? You start a new relationship where your thoughts and energy are in line like ducks crossing the street. We know. But, sometimes we are fooled into knowing the wrong thing. She’s too tall. He’s not fit. She’s too thick or he’s not an athlete. She said, he said. We “know” people like that. We are those people.

Let’s not confuse knowing with “No–ing”. Let’s not trick our minds into thinking there’s more time or more to be desired. When there’s a possibility of something great being in front of you…embrace it. True, it may not be what you’re used to…but it may offer you something USE-ful. It may offer love. It may offer an experience you need to encounter to prepare you for what’s ahead. I don’t think everyone meets for a reason. People come and go like days of the week. But when you meet someone and for whatever reason you set a time and a place…you meet…have fun…chemistry is present…that’s when you know.

You know that you want to see them again. Nothing more nothing less. The feeling must be mutual. You know. When you question yourself or the friendship, that doesn’t mean it’s a “no”. That just means there is more to get to know. Give Love a chance. Give yourself a chance to love. I will. I know it.

Part III coming soon….........

Monday, August 31, 2009

Blackboard Feature: Myron Rolle

Who is Myron Rolle? From the picture above, he surely looks like a studious guy. If you were thinking that before I said that, you are absolutely right. Myron Rolle is a very studious guy. Myron Rolle attended Florida State University and graduated with a Bachelor's Degree in Exercise Science in just 2.5 years with a 3.75 GPA. Myron Rolle was awarded a Rhodes Scholarship and will study at Oxford University for the 2009–10 academic year in order to earn an M.A. in medical anthropology. The Rhodes Scholarship is an international award for study at the University of Oxford and was the first large-scale programme of international scholarships. According to the THE-QS World University Rankings, which is an annual publication that ranks the "Top 200 World Universities", and is published by Times Higher Education(THE) and Quacquarelli Symonds(QS), the University of Oxford is the 4th best University in the World ranked only behind Harvard, Yale and The University of Cambridge. Twenty-five British prime ministers have attended Oxford and at least thirty other international leaders have been educated at Oxford. The Rhodes Scholars may study any full-time postgraduate course offered by the University—whether a taught Master’s programme, a research degree, or a second undergraduate degree (senior status). The 106-year old award is arguably the most prestigious honor an American undergraduate can receive. Here is a small list of past Rhode Scholars:

Howard Florey
University of Adelaide
Australian pharmacologist,Nobel Prize in Medicine, 1945 for Penicillin

Wilbur Jackett
University of Saskatchewan
Chief Justice of theFederal Court of Canada(1971–1979)

Nicholas Katzenbach
Princeton University
U.S. Attorney General (1965-1966), U.S. Under-Secretary of State (1966-1969)

John Brademas
Harvard University
U.S. Congressman (Indiana) 1959-1981, President of New York University 1981-1992

Bill Bradley
Princeton University
American politician, NBA star, U.S. Senator for New Jersey,1979-1997, and Democratic presidential candidate, 2000

Bill Clinton
Georgetown University
American politician, 42nd President of the United States, 1993-2001, Governor of Arkansas, 1979-1981 & 1983-1993

Franklin Raines
Harvard University
Chairman and CEO of Fannie Mae, 1999-2004; Director of the Office of Management and Budget, 1996-1998

Susan Rice
Stanford University
U.S. Assistant Secretary of State for African Affairs, 1997-2001, and United States Ambassador to the United Nations, (2009 - present)

Piyush "Bobby" Jindal
Brown University
Governor of (Louisiana) 2008-, U.S. Congressman (Louisiana), 2005-2007, U.S. Assistant Secretary of Health and Human Services, 2001-2004, President of the University of Louisiana System, 1999-2001

Hopefully, I have demonstrated that Oxford University is one of the best universities in the world and that some of the smartest people in the world have won the Rhodes Scholarship.

With that, you surely know that Myron Rolle is one of the smartest people in the United States and the world. But did you know that this is also Myron Rolle:

Myron Rolle is also former safety for his college football team, the Florida State Seminoles. In 2008, he earned Associated Press 3rd team All-American honors as well as Football Writers Association America 2nd team All-ACC and CoSIDA Academic All-America. In the 2008 season game versus the University of Miami Hurricanes, Seminoles defensive coordinator Mickey Andrews remarked that Rolle played the best and most complete game he has ever seen a safety play at Florida State University in his 25 years of coaching. Rolle, a potential 1st Pick for the NFL, announced on January 12, 2009, that he will first study at Oxford for the 2009–10 academic year in order to earn an M.A. in medical anthropology and will then enter the 2010 NFL Draft. Rolle passed up a chance on NFL millions (Colts receiver Anthony Gonzalez, the last pick of the 2007 first round, earned $5.4 million in guaranteed money) for a tuition-free Oxford experience.

Rolle is of Bahamian descent. He was born October 30, 1986 in Houston, TX to Beverly and Whitney Rolle of the Bahamas. He is very proud of his Bahamian heritage and Myron Rolle, along with his family, plan to open a free health services clinic in Steventon, Exuma in the Bahamas. The clinic will be named the Myron L. Rolle Medical Clinic and Sports Complex.

Usually there is not one day where you won't see Michael Vick on television fighting dogs, Plaxico Burress shooting himself in the leg and OJ Simpson over and over again. Isn't it sad and disappointing to you that you can't even get a glimpse of a truly amazing story? This kid has put the NFL on hold to pursue his educational dreams. The media does not stress stories like this. However, we will try to feature these kind of stories on The Blackboard to show people the positivity that is out here amongst the black community. It is our job to only watch and not absorb the Vick and Burress stories. We should be absorbing THE MYRON ROLLE STORY and showing young black kids that you can really do anything you want if you put your mind to it. There are a lot more positive images of blacks out here but we just are not exposed to them. Barack Obama gets well deserved acclaim for what he has done but please teach your children and yourself to understand and absorb the Myron Rolle's.

I guess all athletes aren't thugs!!!!

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Majority of Athletes Are Thugs.........I Don't Know About That

I recently watched an Outside the Lines Report on ESPN about former Detroit Lions Receiver Charles Rogers. Outside the Lions is a news program that is show regularly on ESPN and it examines topics outside the realm of sports pertaining to athletes. This story was about Charles Rogers really blowing his opportunity in the NFL because of drugs and bad decisions. Additionally, Charles Rogers is trying to get back into the NFL so this was his platform to try to make the claim to the public and the NFL. I shared this story with a friend of mine who is white and we proceeded to have a discussion about it. I always find myself defending things that I assume my friends who happen to be white are saying indirectly. That does not mean that they are saying that be we have a mental button that goes off in conversations like this. I don't know. Let's just call it our duty or responsibility to know the view of your side. Maybe that can enlighten him. The link to the article and video is:

The start of the emails are below. I did not specify what friend the email exchange is with just to conserve his identity. The emails that are labeled "From:Dario Mobley" are my emails to him and the emails labeled "To:Dario Mobley" are from my friend.


From: Dario Mobley
Sent: Thursday, August 20, 2009 7:29 AM

Story on ESPN right now:

Sent: Thursday, August 20, 2009 8:59 AM
To: Dario Mobley
Subject: RE:

The Lions should let him play on their team… and not pay him for the 8.5 million he owes them.

Calvin Johnson (current Detroit Lions football player) and Charles Rogers.

With Dante Culpepper/Stafford. (current Detroit Lions football players)

From: Dario Mobley
Sent: Thursday, August 20, 2009 8:05 AM
Subject: RE:

You are probably faster than him at this point. If you are garbage, you can’t play in the league for long. Simple

Sent: Thursday, August 20, 2009 9:07 AM
To: Dario Mobley
Subject: RE:

Said he’s running 4.5 (speed he runs the 40 yard dash) consistently back to back to back… I doubt I can do that. He deserves a second chance. He’s shown in his past to have the work ethic and he’s showing it again now. If he can get back into football shape let him fly.

From: Dario Mobley
Sent: Thursday, August 20, 2009 8:10 AM
Subject: RE:

Charles Rogers is 28 years old. Every receiver in the league is running 4.5.

Sent: Thursday, August 20, 2009 9:10 AM
To: Dario Mobley
Subject: RE:

Every receiver in the league has been in shape for the past 8 years. He has not been and is already at a 4.5.

Sent: Thursday, August 20, 2009 9:10 AM
To: Dario Mobley
Subject: RE

That is a good Point. Did you hear him say “I Blew”? Also, do you notice how he always looks down?

Sent: Thursday, August 20, 2009 9:09 AM
To: Dario Mobley
Subject: RE:

I haven’t seen the YouTube thing… I just read the article you sent.

From: Dario Mobley
Sent: Thursday, August 20, 2009 8:15 AM
Subject: RE:

The video is on ESPN accompanying the article

Sent: Thursday, August 20, 2009 9:17 AM
To: Dario Mobley
Subject: RE:

I think the majority of athletes are kind of hood thuggish type dudes who really shouldn’t be worshiped. That is just my feeling on all of them. So Rogers still fits the bill.

From: Dario Mobley
Sent: Thursday, August 20, 2009 9:30 AM
Subject: RE:

I have to disagree with that. I don’t think the majority of star athletes (professional, collegiate, high school) are from “the hood”. Also, in my opinion, I would say that half of them who may have grew up in a bad neighborhood are not “REAL hood dudes”. I simply mean that they are not doing things that we associate as thuggish acts like selling drugs or in gangs and stuff of that nature. How can you be a star athlete, going to school everyday, practicing all the time and on the road a lot and then claim to be some real street dude that is doing real street things? It just does not make sense. Ray (a friend of mine) always asks that question about athletes and I do too.

One factor I will lean on to support my claim that all star athletes are not thugs is Ray. Ray works in New Orleans, which is arguably the toughest streets in America, as a police officer. The proof that New Orleans is tough is that New Orleans had the highest murder rate in 2008:

I have never heard him say that a person he has encountered in a criminal situation was a star athlete in high school or an athlete at all on any level. I would think that he would encounter someone if “the majority of athletes are hood thuggish dudes” because of the size of New Orleans. He would be running into a high school star athlete frequently. It would be inevitable. The star athletes in high school are usually the ones that play professionally and on the collegiate level so if they are thuggish dudes now, they would have been thuggish dudes then. That fact should tell you a couple of things. The first thing is that star athletes with professional skills are far and few between. Secondly, it should tell that there are a few athletes that give the majority a bad name and that is magnified by the media because of the interest in celebrities. Additionally, the most common crimes from my standpoint are usually “weed”, “domestic abuse” and things like that. Misdemeanor crimes like “weed” and domestic abuse occur on a daily basis but you rarely see normal people getting their name dragged through the mud for that. Plaxico shooting himself and the “Dog Fighting King” are rare cases and should be attributed to that individual making bad decisions. That should not be lumped into stereotyping all or the majority of professional athletes. So if you could, don’t let your opinion and perception become fact to you because of a fake wannabe on TV looking stupid.

I would think that more kids have problem comes when they have nothing else to do. For example, let’s say a kid played ball in high school and was fairly good but when he finishes high school, he is not good enough to go to college. That is when the issue comes in because of lack of drive, environment, stupidity, or just a need to make “ends meat.”

However, I think the problem with athletes comes when they get a lot of money at once. Firstly, when someone gets a large sum of money, it is a shock and many people make the wrong decisions with family members pulling them from all ways for businesses and borrowing money. Secondly, they feel that it is not imperative to change or conform because it is not necessary in their field. I feel that I conform at work sometimes when I don’t want to but that is what we have to do in a professional environment. They are in a position where they do not have to conform. Additionally, that non-conforming attitude is really common with a young kid in any field or anywhere just because of the simple lack of maturity. That is why you see a lot of the athletes learn when they get older and they start to realize they messed up the opportunity. They had all this money and they did not do the right thing and they still have all these responsibilities. The easiest example of that would be Charles Rogers coming on TV declaring he made mistakes.

I would say that most people who live in the hood and are athletes are praised by the neighborhood for getting out or being really good athletes. A good example would be Allen Iverson or Lebron James and that is considering they are really from the hood. Moreover, most star athletes in any area of the US whether it is Michigan, Montana, New Orleans or the suburbs of California are praised because that is just how it is. It isn’t right but being a good athlete is a popular thing in our society just because the business of professional sports is so big. It is associated with money and that is why you see professional athletes date such a diverse group of women. The color of money is green and some women are attracted to money which further explains the fascination in society with athletes.

Lastly, even if you grow up in the hood, that does not mean you don’t treat people with respect. It is an individual decision and it has to be taken in a case by case basis. A lot of the things can be attributed to lack of maturity and a lot of it can be attributed to getting large sums of money similar to what I said earlier. Have you ever read those stories about all those lottery winners being unhappy or blowing their money? Can we say that all the lottery winners are stupid? I don’t think so. Some people handle things better than others and that is why you only see a small percentage of professional athletes making the wrong decisions.

Sent: Thursday, August 20, 2009 10:00 AM
To: Dario Mobley
Subject: RE:

They’re not hood but some sure act it… loud mouth center of attention… I particulary don’t care for athletes and think it’s ridiculous that they get that much money and that people envy them so much. Society is stupid.

Athletes that I like would be:

Tom Brady

Barry Sanders

David Robinson

Steve Yzerman

Those type dudes keep themselves low profile (except dating super models on tom’s part).

It is mostly the media and societies fault and I agree with that.

But to the select dumb ones… like you said yesterday no one making that money should be talking/acting like that.


Monday, August 17, 2009

Generation X: How Did We Get Here?

While visiting Atlanta last weekend, I had a conversation with an intelligent brother about life as a high school English teacher in the inner city of Atlanta. In this conversation, there were a lot of things that seem almost unbelievable to me. The first thing that really struck me as weird is my own disconnect with a young black youth’s mentality. The English Teacher told me a few stories about his ongoing struggles as an educator. One of the things that really seemed to resonate with me was the response he got after asking the age old question that every high school student is undoubtedly asked multiple times throughout their high school career. That question was “What do you want to be when you grow up?” The shocking thing is the answer he got from a majority of his students. He said the majority of the classroom said they wanted to be a rapper or a professional sports player. Additionally, he said a disturbing portion of the girls said that they wanted to be a “Video Vixen”. The reason the girls said that they wanted to be a video vixen was because of the fact that the video vixens get a lot of attention from guys. When I heard that and it actually registered in my mind, the only question I can ask myself was:


I capitalized this and I had to put this in bold letters because I can’t help but think that this transformation is happening on our watch. What do I mean by our watch? This is happening on the watch of Generation X. For those of you who do not know what or who Generation X is, below is an excerpt from an internet article. Additionally, I have researched Generation X a little bit and most of the information I have found seems to consistently place generation X in the age range below.

Generation X can technically be defined as the generation following the Baby Boomers. Xers were born between 1965 and 1980, 1961 and 1981, 1964 and 1979, 1963 and 1979, 1965 and 1975 or since the mid-1960s, depending on which source you use. For practical purposes we will say that Generation X was born between 1965 and 1980.

Generation Xers were brought up on television, Atari 2600s and personal computers. They are the generation that was raised in the 1970s and 1980s, and saw this country undergo a selfish phase that they do not want to repeat.

So if you are in between the age of 29-44, you are part of generation X. Let’s think about this for a second. Close your eyes and try to put yourselves back into your high school classroom and relive that moment. “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Please just take ten seconds and think about this…………………

I remember vividly hearing the majority of the people saying Doctor or Lawyer. Even though that was the cliché answer, most people in my class said that because that was the level of social and financial status that they wanted to achieve.

It seemed like a possible goal. It seemed like a reachable status. Most of our parents fought through the civil rights era for the right to vote and to have equal rights and they were intent on telling their kids whether they believed it or not things like this:

“You can be a doctor.”
“You will be a lawyer.”
“Damnit, you are going to make it.”

That is what our parents did for us. They fought for themselves and future generations while getting sprayed down by fire hoses and still managed to have enough courage and energy to pass the torch to their Generation X kids.


Where did we lose control?

Was it BET, The Internet, MTV or what?

When did the power of the media eclipse the power of human intervention?

Are we part of the reason why Generation Y (1980-1995) and Generation Z (1996-2010) IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY are so messed up?

Have we ever looked in the mirror and asked ourselves that question?

How did this disease of tattoos, expensive cars, AIDS, Bling-Bling, Gun Violence, Young Jeezy, Air Force Ones, Baggy Pants and Dreadlocks spiral out of control producing something 100 times worst than hurricane Katrina?

Were we too much of progressive thinkers?
Are we too concerned about “getting ours” at any cost?
Do we even care what happens to our children or children’s children?
Are we a community or a whole bunch of suburbs split into 50 states?
Was Generation X the start of the demise of what our ancestors fought for all those years?

To be honest with you, it is a tough question because we all see it and collectively, we are not doing shit to stop it.

Everlasting Days and Exasperating Nights
By Dario K. Mobley

Every moment brings Everlasting Days and Exasperating Nights
Where We Look Straight Ahead Only Stopping For Red Lights
Forever Slaying the Battles of Our Inner Beast
Believing and Assuring One Self of Absolute Mental Peace

Defeating My Own Demons is All I have to Fear
But you Look up in the Mirror and Always See the Devil in the Rear
This is it, We Are Done, Let’s Move On
Drive home, Go to Sleep and it all Starts Again at the Crack of Dawn

The Battle is won but the War is never Done
Our Predecessors Fought When there was Absence of the Sun
We should fighting endlessly for those in the Rear
Instead of letting them get Flashed by the headlights like a Deer

Close Your Eyes and Envision that Thought
As you see the Innocence and Vulnerability of That Animals Heart
Press on the Brakes and Stop As Fast As You Can
Open the Door, Get out the Car and Proceed to Scan

What You See Is Something You Won’t Like
I am positive I pressed the brakes and avoided the strike
However, when I saw the Corpse, I Did Not Understand
The Reason the deer did not move with a look so bland

When I thought About It, My Mind Began to Itch
I could have turned my wheel an inch and swerved into the ditch
Surely I would have been hurt and possibly crying
But just a mere inch would have prevented this deer from dying

Friday, July 31, 2009

Solutions Not Problems

This is a conversation between a friend and me. My friend is white and he is a good friend of mine. Enjoy.....................

From: Dario Mobley
Sent: Friday, July 31, 2009 7:21:46 AM Subject:


Did you get a chance to listen to my loud mouth on that sports show?

What do you think about the Michael Vick thing?

What do you think about Obama sitting down Sgt. Crowley and Professor Gates?

To: "Dario Mobley"
Date: Friday, July 31, 2009, 11:19 AM

I never did hear the radio thing. Could you try to send it again. I am not sure what Micheal Vick thing you are talking about, I have not been paying alot of attention to news lately. As far as the glamorized photo op you are talking about, that is just plain ridiculous! It is so nice that we elected a racist president. You know me, I don't like racist comments going either way (remember that wonderful Indian lady?). The fact that he called that officer stupid before he even knew the facts proves to me that deep down he is a racist. All he knew was it was a black homeowner and a white officer, so automatically, the officer was wrong. Never mind that the officer was trying to protect that mans home, and never mind that the officer once gave mouth to mouth to Reggie Lewis to try to save his life, in Obama's eyes, he is stupid and wrong because he is white. And before you tell me he is not a racist, lets not forget the comment about how his grandmother was a "typical white woman". What do suppose would happen to a white presidential candidate if he had black relatives and he said one of them acted like a "typical black woman"? That candidate would be run out of town and you know that is true. Sorry to go on so long, but I just cant stand racism in any form towards anyone.

Talk to you later

From: Dario Mobley
Sent: Friday, July 31, 2009 1:52:46 PM


I have attached the radio show to this email..

Let's try to take politics or our contrast of political belief out of this and think about this for a second. Firstly, Obama is half Caucasian. Is he racist against himself? For him to come out and state his judgment about Gates and Crowley was wrong. It does not matter if the officer was white or black. I agree with that. However, in a slight defense, I would think most people would take the side of their friends. Even with that being said, the problem with what he did that I acknowledge to you is that he should not have verbalized his thoughts without having the facts because he is President of the United States.

As far as the "typical white person" comment, that comment is all how you decide to interpret it. Are you searching for problems or are you searching for solutions? I can understand the "typical white person comment" clearly because I interpret as him referring to an eighty-six year old white woman who grew up in a time when things were different. It was at a time where whites were verbally and openly racist against blacks with full cooperation from the law. There were democrat and republican presidents during that time so please understand why and how I view that comment that way. The civil rights act was signed in 1964 and it took a while for people to change their views and some still have not today. However, there were people who were not racist then and there are definitely moe people who are not racist now but the views are rooted in how I was reared by my parents.

I wanted to express that to you so you could hopefully understand. But where are we at with this man? Do some people feel that Obama does not represent the United States because he is not 100% white or because he can relate to the struggle of all people instead of just a particular group? Again, I understand you have political beliefs that are deep rooted with the way you were raised. However, it seems like everything that Obama does is not acceptable to you and a lot of other people. There is nothing that he can do right. Is that really logical or even fair? Is this because you don't agree with democratic policies or because you feel that he does not have you and your family best interest in mind?

I have never seen you as a racist and never will. There were many white presidents that I felt were racist so if I don't consider myself a racist, I can not consider you a racist. Additionally, from being around you and being a friend of yours, that stamps my overall view of you as a great person. The thing that seems to be happening with people in general is that we feel like we have to take a side. We either have to be on the black side or white side, conservative side or liberal side, and so on. I believe that each person should be judged on an individual basis and that is how we should proceed with our analysis of anything when it comes to treating a human being. We can't allow politics to filter into making us take a side on things that we fundamentally agree about like "treating people how you want to be treated". I am all about understanding and working toward solutions and not creating more problems as I believe you are. Similarly, I think Obama was trying to accomplish that by sitting the two gentlemen down and talking it out like civilized human beings. How can you or I know Obama's intentions for doing that? You choose to believe that it was a photo opportunity. You don't really know and even if it was a photo op, how can sitting two men down on an issue that is dividing the country be viewed as wrong in any way? Now, both guys did not want to apologize but obviously both guys were wrong in some sort of way. Gates should have cooperated and just filed a complaint after the guy left. Crowley could have identified him from a picture in the house or some other way and should not have arrested him. Both were wrong yet none of them apologized because they both felt that they had to choose a side that does not have any room for middle ground. I don't feel we have to choose a side. Look, you and I are always going to have different political beliefs because that is how we were reared but for some reason, a guy from the deep south and a guy from the South Western-Western part of the United Sates became friends and they can clown and joke like they are brothers regardless of their political beliefs. I think people can talk things out and if it comes to a point where you have to agree to disagree, that is much better than yelling at each other with no attempt at finding some sort of common ground. I think that is how we can achieve solutions and eliminate problems. Hopefully, I have just allowed you to understand my point of view a little more. The issue of people treating each other right is an important issue to me. It's not about white, black, democratic or republican for me. It is about people. It only takes one person to make a change. Hopefully, we are making that change by talking this out.